My Facebook Use
A Facebook position isn't easy. I have multiple positions on multiple different aspects of Facebook. I was in early adopter Facebook, I have been there from almost the beginning - I have a lot invested in my interactions via Facebook. I remember Facebook rolling out Facebook graph, the iOS phone app, messenger, the various redesigns, policy changes, and the announcement of the IPO. It has been an interesting journey through the development of the Facebook brand and product.
In short this post says: “Yes, I use Facebook, but please don't post photos of my kids, or of the inside of my house on Facebook, WhatsApp, or Instagram.”
A Facebook position is important, it helps us think about when and where it might be appropriate to use Facebook - weather as an individual, a business, or a large corporation. A Facebook position is going to be unique to every individual. In this post I will discuss it in three aspects. I run a small business, I run a personal blog, and I have kids (well an 11 month old daughter). In general, Facebook's terms of service is of some help to Facebook users in understanding some of Facebook's positions on what it wants to do with the data metadata and relationships between data that it gathers from its users.
I'm a big believer in personal privacy. Part of personal privacy I think is controlling for the connections between data points (the relationships between associated data), and also controlling for metadata.
In contrast to personal privacy and self revelation of personal data, Social privacy is a lot more difficult to control for, because other people make revelations about you that you may or may not appreciate. These revelations may be new data points or they may be new relationships between existing data points. For instance, in the Facebook world, a new data point might be a photo and a new relationship might be tagging someone in that photo and making that tag connect to that person’s profile.
One of Facebook's goals is to make it conducive and easy for people to share information about the other people that they know. So Facebook is engineered and designed to help create accurate metadata and relationships between data points among users.
Truth is though even though I am a big personal privacy advocate, I do like to share information with others, but I like to do so on my own terms. That is why when Facebook pushed out a new version of their iOS app which required users to let Facebook to have unlimited access to your phone's microphone, I deleted the app and disabled functionality from Facebook to my phone.
Because I am a long-time Facebook user I have a quite a network of personal and professional contacts from various time depths of my life on Facebook. It is to my advantage to leverage these contacts in the various personal and business dealings I have. That's why Becky and I use a business oriented Facebook page for updates about our work in Nigeria. I also connect Facebook with various blog post of mine from my independently run WordPress site. This allows me to connect with new and existing audiences via Facebook.
Facebook and kids
Facebook requires that one be 13 or older to have their own account. You can see the policy guidelines here: https://www.facebook.com/help/157793540954833/
As far as I can tell that is because there are certain US federal regulations about privacy for children that Facebook would have to comply with if it aloud younger people to create accounts. http://www.coppa.org
Some countries have a lower or higher age limit, Yet, other countries like Ireland have no specific age limit at all. There's an interesting discussion helping parents think through issues from an Irish national perspective here: http://www.webwise.ie/parents/a-guide-to-facebook-age-limits
Because others have lengthy and detailed discussions about age appropriateness and issues for young users of social to consider when using these complex platforms, I am not going to directly discuss those issues here.
For me is more important to understand the Facebook business model, and to ask: “How do I want to engage with that business model and how do I want to engage my children with that business model.”
For me I want to let my children choose to engage with the Facebook business model when they are old enough to independently think about the consequences. It does not mean that I won't discuss it with them or help them think it through, but I would rather them enter the marketplace of their own accord, rather than me inducing them in from birth.
This means for my children that I want to give them the option to put their personal information into the hands of another company's structured information set.
It doesn't mean that I don't believe in sharing photos of my kids (I do share photos through this blog and another website here: http://www.hughandbecky.org/photos/katja-paterson-2015/), it means that I don't believe the medium best suited for sharing those photos is Facebook. For me owning the distribution and connectivity platform means that if I want to remove the source image from the web I can. In contrast to Facebook if I want to remove content from Facebook I am not guaranteed that Facebook will actually remove that content. Facebook even acknowledges that my data and data about me may persist even after I delete my account. There are several good articles which give a rundown about Facebook's Terms of Service (TOS). One from the Huffington Post is here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/21/facebook-terms-condition_n_5551965.html. (Because we all know that even reading the TOS of a platform we love can be confusing.)
My opinions about use of Facebook with my kids and property apply to WhatsApp, Instagram (link to TOS), and Facebook, which are all owned by Facebook.
Photos of Kids
I may be off my rocker, but I really think that parents have a responsibility to protect their kids. Part of that may be from the encroachment of social media companies (data collectors) into the personal lives of our kids (not to mention other powerful marketing forces that parents need to protect their kids from). I would also like to think that parents should have the privilege of approving the use of photos of their kids in all cases, although I realize that in public places, permission to photograph children in the United States might be considered a first amendment right (this often includes school sports games). A short bit of googling shows that there is different jurisdictions with different laws (discussion for the UK context), and there are also different protocols for different types of photos (see discussion 1, and discussion 2 ), such as the intended use of the photo, like commercial marketing. The complexity with respect to social media (beyond the persistence of personal data) is that The social media platform may apply a license to the photos allowing for commercial use. For a general overview of the topic consider looking at the wikipedia article for Photography and the law.
I'm here in Orlando, Florida at the WycliffeUSA headquarters. I took my daughter out for a stroll through the parking lot. The heat, humidity and the landscape got me thinking. In anthropology and documentary linguistics we often think about the relationship between people, their culture and social practices, and the land they live on or transverse through. For instance, there is the taxation of land in the Ottoman Empire according to how many trees are on a piece of property (which led to the deforestation of lots of land in the Middle East). In biblical accounts of the depopulation of the Palestinian region there are mentions of "barrenness" or deforestation as a result of the change in population activities.More recently we can look at issues of urbanization around the world, be they accounts of roads in Australia or Mexico affecting traditional activities and the use of land by indigenous peoples, or of refugees neading wood fires for cooking in Africa.
So if we take as truth this relationship between us and the land we steward, what then should be our response? It is also equally striking that if we look back though history, that major architectural features are built and new designs are established based on the priorities of institutional management. For instance, consider The Roman emperors and the colosseum, Egypt and the pyramids, Noah and the ark, the Vatican and St. Peter's basilica, or the USA Vietnam war memorial with the names of the fallen soldiers written on it. Our architectural legacy (which is part of our land use) leaves a testament to our management priorities.
When I was in Africa doing some linguistic field work, I was approached by a local fellow who does a bit of mentoring of local young men; teaching them life skills and stewardship practices. He asked me how many fruit trees I have on my property. I told him "none" (as I had forgotten about the fig tree on my rental property in Texas and the house I was living in at the time in Oregon had no fruit trees at all). This Nigerian continued to tell me that fruit trees are really important because they not only affect the quality of the ground but they also provide income. For him a fruit tree on his property means that he has shade in an air conditioner-less society, and fruit in season -- meaning: He does not have to pay for food and can send one of his kids to market to sell his excess fruit (income instead of expense). He also said, that one must plant fruit trees early in life (and it is therefore important for young men to know) because it takes time (years) for fruit trees to be productive.
My response in the two and a half years since being asked if I have fruit trees on my property has been that I have planted four fruit trees, eleven fruiting shrubs, and two fruiting bramble patches. While I have chosen fruits that I like and grow in my region, my attention to planing fruit trees at all can be directly traced to my conversation with this Nigerian. And now that I am in my 30's it is my hope that my daughter will have fruit from my trees.So as I walk with my daughter though the walking paths at the Wycliffe headquarters in the 9 AM morning sun and humidity of a Florida August in full swing, I appreciate the few shade trees in the landscaping around the buildings. But I wonder: "why no fruit trees?" In contrast to the trees on the east side of the buildings, the west side contains a rain/drainage pond (an important feature in Florida) and grassy fields. So as I walk the grounds of the Wycliffe headquarters I wonder what the architecture can tell us about the priorities of the organizational management. I wonder why there are (beautiful albeit fruitless) trees on the east side and plains on the west side.The author of the book Rich dad, poor dad talks about buying assets which make us money rather than buying assets which cost us money. Money is one easy way that American culture can quantify the propensity to be sustainable. That is, profitability and sustainability are not the same, but profitability metics can be used as an indicator for some sorts of sustainability. The principle can be expounded upon even for non-profit organizations. Assets which pay for themselves contribute to the organization's sustainability. I wonder how many NGOs (not just WycliffeUSA) treat their land as an asset which should pay for itself. I think it is particularly interesting to consider in WycliffeUSA's case because sustained use of it's products is one of its businesses goals. That is, how integrated into the corporation's activities is the ideas of stewardship and sustainability?
I am no expert on Floridian horticulture but I wonder what sort of analogies can be drawn between the state of the grounds and the organizational priorities as pursued by management.
I do know that oranges grow in Florida, I wonder if Wycliffe had a grove of oranges and had a you-pick (pay version) if that would add social value to the property in the eyes of local Floridians. Communities form around food and the food gathering process. Or if the orange grove was a free you-pick could Wycliffe organize an open house to coincide with orange season to meet both practical and spiritual needs of local Americans interested in holistic ministry to native and minority language speaking peoples?
In terms of architecture I'm no expert on facility maintenance or on Florida weather but it seems that solar power would also be a financially benefiting venture for an organization depending on fluctuating income streams.
I read a news article today that talked about a couple from Australia raffleing off their Micronesian resort. They must have sold more than 50,000 tickets for 49 aus. dollars. I think to myself “that is awesome. I’d love to buy a profitable business for $49. How cool is that!” In reality if I had seen the raffle before it ended I would likely not have bought a ticket because there was too much risk of getting nothing out of it. I wonder: am I not risky enough?
I know I won’t touch all the mental concepts that Katja has right now. But here are some (more noun like concepts) that I can easily remember:
- <æ> for Andrew
She has some verb like categories or actions that I think are salient as well. Some of these things are tactile motor movement skills which require some sort of mental conceptualization, while others are directional in nature:
- up (which is not just vertical, but might include “hold me”, or switch people holding me)
- open (pull)
- closed (push)
- More (food)
- Turn around to get off the couch or go down a step
- Wave bye-bye
- Soft hands (as in gentle hands — when she is pulling my beard)
- She also crawls and assisted walks
- Feeds herself (we can assume that she can feel hunger)
- Takes things off: She doesn’t like anything on her head, can take her pants off
- She likes to reach out with her index finger and thumb and experience the feeling of hair
- Reads a book while cooing to herself
- Plays the drums
- She is music aware
- She is speech sound aware (she knows she hears a sound she is not making and that it is different than what she is making) for instance the difference between <ah> and <u> but can not yet pronounce <u>.
She has a sense of emotion that clearly includes:
- Happy laughter
- Empathy when others are crying
Many times our memories of people are deeply related to the experiences we have with those people at particular places.
Then later in life when we do those same activities (as we had previously done in our memories), we are somehow transported back to a place where we no longer are, to a group which is no longer together, to an event or environment we can no longer experience.
The last week (and day) of June in Eugene, Oregon is perhaps the beginning of jelly making and jamming season. The strawberries have already finished. The blueberries are in their last week of production. The blackberries are just about to arrive. The plums on the plumb trees are beginning to come in. This is an event that reminds me of people and places in my past. Particularly it reminds me of the Larsons.
Many years ago my dad was in the U. S. Air Force. For a stent he worked at Rein Main Air Base in Frankfurt, Germany. In fact Frankfurt was where I was born. As I remember the story being told to me, my dad worked with Karl Larson at the base clinic. The two were soon good friends. My parents were newly married while Karl and his wife Karen had three young children at the time. The children were all older than me. I was less than two years when Karl and Karen moved to Marlinton, West Virginia (actually a small hamlet just outside Marlinton on 92 called Huntersville). In the following years my parents would move from Germany to Dayton, Ohio and then to College Park, Maryland and then again to Bowling Air Force Base, Washington D.C. We moved from Washington D. C. back to Germany when I was nine years old. So most of this story happens between when I was five and nine years old.
My dad and mom stayed in contact with the Larsons for a long time. When we lived in the D. C. Metro area we would often drive out for the weekend to Marlinton and visit with the Larsons. It was a five hour drive. If we left early in the morning we could make it by lunch. We made the trip most frequently on three day weekends and holidays - Holidays where my dad's family from New York were not scheduled to come down to visit, but even then sometime my dad's sisters would go with us to visit the Larsons.
I remember being able to recall every turn in the long winding road across the Appalachian Mountains. I remember knowing every highway name and the order of turns and railroad bridges I can see the windy roads and the rock faces in my mind as I write. Even as a young boy, knew the route on the map and I knew the alternate route. I remember asking my dad once how much longer. He said to count backwards to one hundred. - Backwards from what?!? Was my reply. I remember sitting in that orange Westfalia camper, counting and being interrupted periodically by my dad so as to slow me down.
To me, perhaps because the only place I had been in West Virginia was to the Larsons, West Virginia became synonymous with the Larsons. To say that we were going to West Virginia was to say that we were going to visit the Larsons. After all visiting them was my whole "West Virginia experience".
They lived in an old 5 bedroom farm house. It was a civil war era white clapboard house with a large wrap-around deck on the front. The house was on well water. Sometimes during long dry summers the water in the well would dry up. There was also a large degree of iron in the water. Rings of orange iron deposits were on all the drains. Iron stains eventually discolored laundry, especially the towels. Outside, to the far side of the porch, there was a lilac bush. Elsewhere there was a grapevine and a plum tree. There was a long gravel drive with deep, wide ruts that created little "ponds" when it rained. There were two huge trees in the front yard inside the white fence. Their trunks were at least 8 foot in diameter. They had huge boughs that were at least 3 foot in diameter. We, several of us at a time, used to climb up on them and play in the tree. It was sort of a rite of passage to be able to ascend the tree by ones self. Beyond the trees there was a white cattle fence that surrounded the property.
The fence served several purposes, it marked the edge of the lawn from the field. It also served to keep any grazing animals out of the yard (not that I particularly remember any incident with these animals, but there were no dried cow pies in the lawn area). However, for me the most memorable use of the fence was to mark the firing line.
With Karl and dad we used to shoot targets from the fence to the barn below. I say "we", because I felt like I was a part but I actually never shot anything - I was told I was too young (and I have now waited 27 years to be old enough to fire Karl's guns and pass through the rite of passage). I did however collect the shell casings of spent rounds. I loved the smell. Fresh .22 shells were the best. Once I had a brown paper bag with over 122 .22 casings, a few 3-10 casings, and a few 12 gage, and a few other casings. I used to hold them up to my lips and blow into the casing and make them whistle. I took the casing with me back to Washington D.C. They lived in the footlocker my dad gave me - my treasurer chest.
The Larson's was a magical place. Cold in the mornings from the mountain air and hot in the afternoon sun. One quickly learned to dress in layers- longjohns under jeans, sweaters over long-sleeve shirts. Late at night the cold air and lack of city lights made for awesome star gazing. I remember sitting out after dinner watching the sky get darker. Sitting on lawn chairs and blankets. Fighting the mosquitos, the cold, and the falling dew. Waiting and watching the constellations come out. Shooting stars or Meteors were not to be missed. I think I saw my first one there in the night sky.
In the winter, it was also cold because the house was old and was heated by several wood burning pot belly stoves. When moving through the house it was required to close the room doors to keep the heat from escaping. The doors had old round metal knobs and big square latches, with long since missing metal keys. That living room with the pot belly stove and the old brown and white couch was where I learned to play the game Battleship. That cold house required some of the windows (and even a bedroom) to be sealed off with plastic in the winter, to keep the heat in. I remember one cold winter sitting in the living room. My dad had brought a VCR and a VHS tape. We hooked it up to a small TV. Huddled in a corner with the stove fully radiating. We watched Treasures of the Snow. I decided while watching that movie that I wanted to do woodworking, something I do to this day.
The Larsons was a place of adventure. Across the cow pasture lie a small creek. A 2x4 board would be enough to cross the brook. Or if one knew where the rocks were then one could keep their feet dry. There was enough fallen branches, reeds, and tall grass to create forts and hideouts, though one had to be mindful lest one encounter a rattle snake. Over the years the brook would take on different shapes as rains and snows would cause the real creek a few hundred yards down stream to rise and swell. Minnow traps and fishing rods were often part of these trips to the creek. The larger creek was the place for fishing. There were rainbow trout in it! The ultimate form of responsibility was to have one's own fishing rod and be able to catch a keeper. But alas I was not from WV. I was merely visiting. I didn't have my own fishing pole. So sometimes Karl would take me down and we would cast a few lines in (at least in the summer).
One summer day I was out playing in the brook area, and needed to return to the house to use the toilet. I was about 7 years old. I went to the front door but it was locked. So I walked around to the side door, which was off of the kitchen and across from the bathroom. To get to the side door one had to walk through a screened-in area. To get back outside, the screen door had a latch of some sort, but to reach the latch one had to brave past the yellow-jackets. I don't remember ever getting stung by yellow-jackets, but I was stung once by a honey bee, in Ohio. I vowed never to get stung again. On this day there were several yellow-jackets caught inside the screened in area, they seemed aggressive. I was trapped and I had to go to the toilet. I was meeting on the door but no answer, well not right away. Eventually there was one. But Karen couldn't understand why I was in such a panic. I tried telling her about the "yellow-coats". But she couldn't imagine what "yellow-coats" were. For me, having newly learned the distinction between bees and "yellow-jackets" I had substituted the "jacket" for "coat". If I had a super-power, it might be in making substations or drawing analogies.
Adventures may be thrilling like running to the creek, or terrifying like yellow-coats, but they are often just filled with new things. There were plenty of new things at the Larsons. I remember, going for a picnic once. There was an underground next of yellow-jackets. Anthony found it. Karl poured some gasoline, or lighter fluid down the hole and killed the hive. I had never seen a hive exterminated before, and I had never seen a hive in the ground before. Another new event for me was going to an auction. I remember the long barn that the auction was held in, the air was warm, and stuffy. Karl ended up getting a couple bags of spicy pork rinds. Both a first for me (not that I cared for either very much at the time). I remember sitting in the back of the car. Going around the curves we would lean onto each other in the back seat. Some of us kids appreciated this more than others.
I remember a time when 5¢ would buy a pice of candy. I remember walking down to the bait store in Huntersville to buy candy with the Larson kids. It was something like Nerds, and something else like taffy sticks, maybe they were cow tails, or Sugar Daddys.
The Larsons was a place of intrigue. It was where I learned that there were fewer pegs than holes in the game of Battleship. I felt that there was something really wrong with the game designer to create the environment where there were not enough pegs for all the holes in the whole game. It was also at the Larsons where I first considered that the width of a porch needs to be larger than the width of the porch swing. I remember having to walk around the swing on the outside of the columns when someone was swinging. - Though this memory might have been enhanced by me internally walking into the swing while someone was swinging not it. Crazy who would make a porch that small! Perhaps this was my first consideration of user experience design.
The Larsons was a moral place. Some kids, like me, are born to explore and to test, to discover boundaries, to find defined limits, and push for new boundaries. I remember that Karen was firm but beautifully polite and caring. My parents left me with the Larsons for a week once. Karen cured me of my habit of sticking out my tongue at authorities. I think that having these boundaries makes me appreciate the home environment more. It made it feel like their house was a safe place, where respect was required. I am now happy to report, that I rarely stick my tongue out at adults.
Over the years, I rarely remember my dad singing. He liked music, and song. But singing, especially by himself was not his thing. However, singing was a social venture for him. In 1987 my dad had just bought his first Mac. I remember that he typed the words to about 50 songs (hymns, Psalty songs, and his favorite christian songs of the time). We took several copies of these printouts with us to the Larsons. At the time they were hosting a small house church or Bible study. I remember singing together at the bible study, but I also remember practicing the round in HA LA LA LAby Ernie Rettino.
Now, when I think about West Virginia, I don't like to think about the diverse nature of the state, or a history of a depressed culture. I like to think of my treasured memories. Call me selfish, call me coward, call me looking for that home away from home. Call me looking for that place of peace, that is so far away, I may never find it. That place with so few amenities, yet a place of inclusion. A place where people and their character shine, where fun was made, where the outdoors grew large, and the laughter was deep.
Jeremiah came and visited me. I’m excited. It is a good thing. Becky and I made him a cake, a tiramisu cake.We invited some friends over for dessert, and played wits & wagers. It was a bit of a delayed birthday celebration. He next day we went up to Portland.
We took JJ to Off the Waffel for Goat in the headlights